​I just watched The Vow again. It’s one of my favorite movies and it’s based on a true story. It’s a love story so of course it’s romantic. But what I love about this movie is that the romance is more that superficial. There are multiple examples of what love really is and means on different levels. When Leo finds out his wife Paige doesn’t remember him he tries so hard to make her fall in love with him again. And when that doesn’t work he lets her go even though that is the last thing he wants but it is what she needs to find herself. Spoiler alert: eventually she does fall back in love with him even though she never remembers what they had.

Then there are Paige’s parents. At first they try to take her home and love on her in the way they used to. To recreate the life and the daughter they had. But they learn to accept her for who she is now.  Also Spoiler alert: Her dad had an affair and her mom chose to forgive him because he realized what a colossal mistake he made. She chooses to forgive him because of all the things he did right not dump him for one mistake albeit a major one. Paige doesn’t understand this. She feels betrayed because no one told her that was why she left in the first place. Even Leo knew but he didn’t tell her because he wanted her love but not at the expense of her cutting ties with her family again.

Love is hard. But it’s worth it. And love like that lasts a lifetime, no matter what obstacles get in the way.